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I think by blaming other people will agree with them wholeheartedly. But it all WRONG , wrong. Precisely to argue and prove that someone else is wrong, it actually will be closing their minds. THEY MAY KNOW THEM WRONG , BUT WON'T ADMIT IT. John C. Maxwell in his book wrote that : Heart precedes head. So the debate EGO PLAY MORE THAN LOGIC. Do not believe? Remember when you last won the debate with your friends? While you will be proven wrong if you admit it outright? Even if you win: everything seems correct and you win, but try to feel your friend was feeling, whether they accept your argument with a vengeance?
Can we resuscitate someone in a way they will hurt pride and his ego. If you have not noticed your heart please consult your doctor and ask how hard your heart. One way to win a debate is TO AVOID! Train yourself how to get people who do not agree to disagree, without hurting her! It is the challenge!!!. A person may deny, "What do you mean? I try to justify a wrong, and justify something is wrong blah blah blah ....". Means that person has the same thoughts with me in the past, but consider when trying to debate, do you ever see the debates? and whether they "all" got satisfactory results? Have you ever argued with your customers? and whether they are interested in "buying" your product after you won the debate? That happens, they will stay away from you, and they will buy the products of others, though! Your product is the best! but they will not buy it, forever!
After realizing this, I tried to find a way to "pull" their minds without hurting their pride. As stupid of me but I'm not deaf information, I 'm not an idiot, then I hunt lot of literature from books, internet, scripture, whatever! After that I got the "how" or techniques in an audiobook that is quite interesting. After it turned out the result is how to make them EMPATHY. Well empathy, we have to speak from the heart. But the simple fact that most people simply carried away to put others down, it's wrong. Convey a sense of empathy, for example: "I feel what you feel ..." say that, with no a fake empathy. Then say "I used to think that way... Then found that... ( blah blah blah )" The issue saying, "it turns out ( blah blah blah ) ... do not like that I think used to be". It looks like a rerun of meaning, but it must be said honestly, the trick is most successful if we are honest or without lies.
Of course this does not apply at the time of the race, but can be very useful when dealing with humans. In the debate we are designed to "bring down" the other person, and that's one thing I do not like! especially when he saw people who lost face due to losing the debate, it is not Humanly speaking, it will only leave a bad that they will never forget, especially if they are people Melancholy.
I'm sory, my english is not too good :)
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Debate Tactics and Powerful Arguments
One thing I do not like is reading a book. At least until I met with a book whose title is a bit curious, the title of his book is "How to Win Friends and Influence People" Dale Carnegie works if not wrong. The contents of the book fairly touching the heart, it is also written in the book of stories of the people and the simple habits that make them great. Ranging from Abraham Lincoln to notorious criminals. That behind all those big names, there are many interesting things that would need to be known. This book is not a book how to affect people in a negative sense. This book actually changed a lot of arrogant people become a calm. I honestly themselves before reading this book is like the debate, I think the first to argue we can convince people and win his mind to the way we think.I think by blaming other people will agree with them wholeheartedly. But it all WRONG , wrong. Precisely to argue and prove that someone else is wrong, it actually will be closing their minds. THEY MAY KNOW THEM WRONG , BUT WON'T ADMIT IT. John C. Maxwell in his book wrote that : Heart precedes head. So the debate EGO PLAY MORE THAN LOGIC. Do not believe? Remember when you last won the debate with your friends? While you will be proven wrong if you admit it outright? Even if you win: everything seems correct and you win, but try to feel your friend was feeling, whether they accept your argument with a vengeance?
Can we resuscitate someone in a way they will hurt pride and his ego. If you have not noticed your heart please consult your doctor and ask how hard your heart. One way to win a debate is TO AVOID! Train yourself how to get people who do not agree to disagree, without hurting her! It is the challenge!!!. A person may deny, "What do you mean? I try to justify a wrong, and justify something is wrong blah blah blah ....". Means that person has the same thoughts with me in the past, but consider when trying to debate, do you ever see the debates? and whether they "all" got satisfactory results? Have you ever argued with your customers? and whether they are interested in "buying" your product after you won the debate? That happens, they will stay away from you, and they will buy the products of others, though! Your product is the best! but they will not buy it, forever!
After realizing this, I tried to find a way to "pull" their minds without hurting their pride. As stupid of me but I'm not deaf information, I 'm not an idiot, then I hunt lot of literature from books, internet, scripture, whatever! After that I got the "how" or techniques in an audiobook that is quite interesting. After it turned out the result is how to make them EMPATHY. Well empathy, we have to speak from the heart. But the simple fact that most people simply carried away to put others down, it's wrong. Convey a sense of empathy, for example: "I feel what you feel ..." say that, with no a fake empathy. Then say "I used to think that way... Then found that... ( blah blah blah )" The issue saying, "it turns out ( blah blah blah ) ... do not like that I think used to be". It looks like a rerun of meaning, but it must be said honestly, the trick is most successful if we are honest or without lies.
Of course this does not apply at the time of the race, but can be very useful when dealing with humans. In the debate we are designed to "bring down" the other person, and that's one thing I do not like! especially when he saw people who lost face due to losing the debate, it is not Humanly speaking, it will only leave a bad that they will never forget, especially if they are people Melancholy.
I'm sory, my english is not too good :)
#If you want to quote part or all of the contents of this blog please include the address or source, please respect my copyright.
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